The worst possible scenario almost happened.
Almost. A small but powerful word.
In the span of six letters, almost can cause grief, worry, general consternation, and downright panic.
The legal adventure of adoption for my wife, son, and me is a perfect example.
First things first, the major part of the adoption process has gone off without a hitch. Our birthmom, who happens to be my cousin, has been great from start to finish with this whole thing.
I would be dishonest if I said I never had a doubt about her backing out — I did.
But this doubt had nothing to do with her and everything to do with me. Let me explain…
When we started this adoption journey, I started reading all about other adoption stories. And, for whatever reason, I was constantly drawn to the worst case scenario stories. Here are a few examples of the types of stories I read:
- Birthmom and adoptive parents come to an agreement before the child is born. Just before the birth, or just after, the birthmom changes her mind.
- The birthmom and adoptive family make and agreement and the child is placed with the adoptive parents. But the birthfather wants to exercise his rights a few months down the road and the horrible scenario of adoption litigation begins.
- And most relevant to our current situation, an adoptive family is doing an inter-state adoption and gets stuck away from their home due to some paperwork issues.
So when I got a phone call from the social worker we hired in Nevada in which we learned that there were some paperwork issues, I got totally freaked out. I started imagining all the worst stories that I read about months ago.
I even started to coach myself through the issues involved with being stuck here. At least your with your wife, son, and mother-in-law, all of whom you love, I told myself. Maybe you can figure out a way to stay with some of your family in town? It could be worse, after all…
Of course my wife and I (and many others) prayed. But when faced with what seems like a looming disaster right around the bend, it’s hard to be as confident in God’s leading as you’d like to be.
The worst almost happened.
The Flipside of Almost
Luckily there’s another side to almost. There’s the good news.
Our good news came in the form of another phone call from the Nevada social worker and an email from the California adoption agency. Both of them assured me that all the necessary paperwork has been processed and approved. We can go home!
We almost got stuck…but we didn’t!
We get to return home!
In just a matter of a few hours from the time I’m writing this, we’ll be on the road undertaking a 5-hour road trip with a new born. Nothing problematic about that!
I wonder what might almost happen on this leg of our journey!
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